by Ally Hart

Created on: June 12, 2009   Last Updated: June 15, 2009

Marriage is a special and legal bond between two people. A commitment to be with one person for the rest of your life, through thick and thin for better or for worse.

Freshly married couples may experience the honeymoon period where it seems as though marital bliss will be forever, the feeling can last so long but what happens when time takes its toll on a once blissful loving marriage and turns it into the ugly face of separation or even divorce?

Every couple is different from the culture in which they are raised to the personality they reflect and there are many reasons why marriages fall apart. Here are the 5 most common deal breakers when it comes to the sacred vows of marriage.

Communication: There is one major skill that a lot of couples lack when it comes to their relationship and that is communication. They say "communication is the key" and it is true. Unless a couple expresses their thoughts and feelings to their spouse, there are bound to be issues with misunderstandings and assumptions. Your partner is not a mind reader so speak up.

Interfering family: Family is a touchy subject with most couples. There are ones fortunate enough to have that special bond where everybody gets along but that isn't always the case. Relatives who disapprove may meddle and gossip, causing ruffled feathers between the couple. It can be difficult for one not to listen to the advice of family,the people who raised them and supposedly know them best especially if that part of the family is close. Its always good to sit down with your spouse and talk about situations like these before allowing it to possibly destroy your marriage and relationship.

Money: The saying "whats mine is yours" doesn't always apply and money can be a major issue in a once solid marriage. If one of the couple makes more than the other, has a better job or ridiculous spending habits can hurt a relationship if each party doesn't understand where they stand as far as the finances are concerned.

Jealousy: Some people go too far when it comes to their relationship. Jealousy over friends, members of the opposite sex or even jealousy over money can become a bad habit and make one seem almost controlling and weak. This is again where communicating comes in, tell your partner how you feel before flipping out because they smiled at the cashier.

That cheating heart: Infidelity is probably the most common cause of divorce not to mention is morally wrong. Whatever the reason, this can be one of the hardest things for a couple to get over if they are lucky enough to even get a chance to try again. Infidelity causes hurt and pain for a brief blink of pleasure. Communicate with your spouse, you did take vows together, for better or for worse.

Either way, there are ways to overcome some of the worst marriage breakers and some couples are strong enough as one to over come them but when the damage is done sometimes a break is unfortunate but inevitable.

In any case if a marriage is on the verge of failure the best advice is if both partners are willing to work together once again as one for the sake of their marriage, go talk to a professional marriage counsellor if all else has failed. There is too much divorce in this day and age to just give up.

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