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Your heart can play tricks on you. Sometimes what you feel for a person isn't exactly what you think it is.

Differentiating love from lust is like tasting a dish to know what flavor it lacks. You might have the tongue for it, but not the best taste buds. Everyone feels that they've found true love even if the people around them would see something else. It's almost as if you're allowing yourself to be stuck with this false notion of love. Now if you're blinded by your own definition of love, then how can you tell if it's just lust?

"If you're completely ignoring his/her personality, is it love or lust?"

Forget what those teen dramas are telling you, personality is still an important factor in determining whether what you have is love or just lust.

When you're not having long conversations, when you catch yourself yawning whenever the person speaks, or when you open a topic and you see the person just staring at you emptily, wouldn't that be enough reason not to consider your relationship deeper than just lust? Of course, it just might mean that the person's boring or you don't share the same interests. But most of the time, it's because you're just lusting over that person.

"How about if you feel an intense passion rush over you whenever the person's wearing something hot? "

You know the deal. It's when you can't take your eyes off her, for the sole reason that she's wearing that sexy outfit she recently bought, and you transform into a drooling dud.

Though this might be true even in relationships built upon love, more often than not, it's just a product of a shallow attraction. When you're mentally undressing the person and thinking about the dirty things you would do to her, it's clearly lustful in nature. Yes, strictly speaking, it's lust if you cannot exercise self-control or if what you have is more of an urge rather than a feeling. At the very core of it, you're reacting based only on what you see and not on what you truly feel.

"If you find yourself wanting to spend the rest of your life with the person, is it love or lust?"

If you're suddenly thinking of marriage then that's a big step away from pure lust. Even if you have the most materialistic dreams like owning a new house, a car, a roomful of kids and a family pet, it can still be considered as love.

Having a commitment and keeping the relationship intact through marriage is proof that you truly love the person. Divorces and annulments aside, you do know that if you're going to get married,

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