by Victoria Tiegert

Created on: June 07, 2009

For many dads, especially first-timers, the thought of an impending labor and delivery can produce a plethora of different thoughts and feelings. There may be fear that you won't know what to do or how to help. What is your role in this whole event? You are probably more than a bit nervous about the intense pain that your partner will be going through and if you will be able to help ease any of it at all. You might also worry that with the doctors and nurses in attendance, she won't really need you at all. Don't even think it, you will be the most important person in the room for your partner.

Hopefully, you have attended some childbirth classes that have given you some idea about your importance during this time and have communicated with the mommy-to-be about what she anticipates her needs from you will be when the time comes. Keep in mind, though, that these are completely subject to change. She may think that she will want you to hold her hand the whole time, but find that being touched makes her want to come unglued. It's normal for things to change during such an intense experience. The following are ten tips that can help you, the dad, play your role to the best of your ability during the labor and birth process.

1)Your most important role is to ensure that the needs of your partner are being met, both by you and any hospital staff that is in attendance. She may need food or drink, blankets, pillows, music, or something else. When she lets you know that there is something she would appreciate, do all that you can to get it for her. Her comfort (to the extent possible) is extremely important.

2)This may seem obvious, but it is not always done, so here it is...be there! Pack whatever you might need that could have you leaving the room at a time when you are needed there. Bring snacks and drinks as labor can be longer than you anticipate. Bring something to do if she happens to be able to grab a quick nap. Waking up alone is not most laboring women's idea of a good time. Do everything you can to stay in the room with her.

3)Be strong for her. While realizing that you have feelings, too, you must be emotionally stable and secure. Realize that she may say things that she typically would not and don't take too much to heart. This is no time to get oversensitive.

4)Be encouraging to her. Cheer her on and tell her how very proud you are of her. She is birthing your child and it is no easy task! Be sure that you let her know how much

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