by Barbara FeliceHowarth

Created on: June 07, 2009   Last Updated: June 09, 2009

Is it too soon to move in together? What is too soon? Who is in charge of soon? I ask these questions because "too soon" can mean a variety of things. When we were younger our mothers told us right after we ate in the summer "Its too soon to go in the water, wait 30 minutes" "Don't kiss on the first date, it's too soon" "Wait until the 3rd date" Just about everything in life has a time frame with the one exception; love. My brother married my sister in law after only knowing her a few weeks and this month they will be married 30 years. I also had a friend who lived with her boyfriend for 6 years before getting married and they were divorced within a year. As for me, My husband and I were friends first but once we started dating he was all moved in within a month and this September we will be married 10 years.

You can't really put a time on a relationship because it's either there or it's not. Some say it's better to live together so you can learn about each other faster and watch your love either grow closer or grow apart. Is there such a thing as too late? What if your too cautious and your mate gets impatient and moves on? What I'm trying to relay here is that you can't put a time on love. If that was possible then no one would be divorced. A person needs to test drive the car before they buy it right?

We don't need time to show us how our relationships will turn out. I do however think it's unsafe to meet someone over the Internet and have them move in without ever seeing them. There are a few exceptions when indeed it's too soon and that is one of them. Another reason why it may be too soon is the motive for having the person move in. Is it because you really care about this person or is it because you just lost your job and need financial help? A lot of people make this mistake and those are the ones that usually never work out. There are three reasons why people move in together quickly; money, love and companionship. I don't believe in love at first sight but I do believe that you can tell in the first month if this person is right for you or not but only if both of you are truthful.

To answer the question that is given here, No , it's not too soon if you truly feel a connection and the same life goals exist. And, Yes, it's too soon to move in together if the only goal is financial gain, you're not truthful or you are just plain scared of dying alone. Of course there are people who are best suited to live together so they have someone to grow old with if they are getting up in years and want a companion. As long as both parties have the same goals and motives, it is OK, after all; Nothing in life is guaranteed when it comes to love.

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