by Matt Bird

Created on: June 07, 2009

Text messaging has filled a gap in the lives of millions, a gap that we didn't even know we had. And though I'm not much of one for text messaging myself (I prefer computer messaging, which is pretty much the same thing except free) I fully understand the etiquette behind it, and have been exposed to enough of it to realize when text messaging is appropriate and when it isn't.

Here are a few cases when you're perfectly welcome to engage in text messaging. These are situations that the technology was basically designed for.

1.) Getting in contact with a friend. Maybe you've got a quick question that needs answering, like when they want to meet up, and don't need an entire phone conversation to get it answered. These messages are as succinct as it gets.

2.) Sending a message to say you'll be late. A phone call might be a bit easier, but if you're a fiend with the keys and have somebody who can accept the message at work or wherever you're going texts work just as well.

3.) Asking for directions. You're lost, you need help. Again, a phone call might be easier, but if you only need a quick adjustment or a bit of clarification a text works well.

4.) Wishing somebody a good day. I have one friend who texts pretty much every one of her friends a little 'Good morning, sunshine!' message every day. A nice gesture, this (though it's one of the reasons I don't have a phone since she texts early. I'd be driven bananas.)

You get the picture. If it's a quick, personal communique between friends or colleagues, text messages are perfect.

Unfortunately, they're not always. Here are a couple situations where text messages shouldn't be used.

1.) To have a long winded conversation. This is okay if you have unlimited messaging, but you'll otherwise be wasting a horde of money. If you're going to do this, talk on the phone or find a computer. (Or better yet, just meet the person in the flesh.)

2.) To break up with somebody. You cold-hearted coward! Text breakups are horribly spineless and a truly awful way to end any relationship, especially if you refuse to see the person ever again afterwards.

3.) To cheat on a test. I know students have tried it, and whether they get away with it or not it's wrong, wrong, wrong.

4.) To coordinate a heist. I'm sure thieves do this. For shame!

5.) To insult someone anonymously. Not only is it rude, it probably won't work since they can just text you back.

6.) To spread advertisements. I hate texting adverts. They're so irritating, and they waste money to boot.

7.) To engage in text sex. Uhh, you can probably figure out why this isn't a great idea on your own.

Make the most of your texting. Don't put your phone to use for spiteful or smutty purposes.

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