claims, "I'm grateful that you care for my kids too, like I do." An attitude of gratitude will benefit your kids, and in the end, this will benefit you too. You want time to be free to do as you please sometimes, with peace of mind, knowing that your children are fine, don't you? If that's true, then use an attitude of gratitude, because you see, everything you think, say and do comes back to you eventually. It's true.

4. Fake it until you make your new and improved view and attitude come true.

At first, it always seems impossible to find an attitude of gratitude when it comes to an Ex-relationship, much less what and whom seems to be your Ex's new and improved version of you, but here's the good news. You can act as if it's true and you do have an attitude of gratitude, even if that new love threatens you. Fake it until you make it come true for you and for your children's sake, don't make the mistake of behaving in ways that say, "I'm afraid."

Keep in mind what courage means. It means that you are allowed to be threatened or afraid, but you can face what makes you threatened and afraid anyway. When you do, you'll always find peace of mind on the other side of what or whom makes you afraid. What threatens us is always fear based, so face what makes you afraid. Otherwise, the monsters in your mind will bite your behind all the time. Besides, after a while, what you fake will take you to a new and improved view, with such a great attitude, that you will actually feel at ease in the midst of your ex and the new love. That's just what forgiveness does.

5. Forgiveness holds the key to serenity.

No matter what you think or say, you CAN fake dignity and grace, so do what you have to do to find some pride. Hold your head up high and say every day, "I refuse to lose my dignity today." After that, visualize what and whom you despise. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and before you forget why you need to find peace of mind, think of your Ex and his or her new love life. With your children in mind, say to your Ex and the new love too, "Thanks for giving me this experience."

If you'll note the word, "forgiving," is hidden within that statement, you'll see why forgiveness mixed with a sense of gratitude can only improve your attitude, so let go of that bitter old soul. Set it free so that you can be the best Ex your Ex and any new love ever knew. If you make it true, this will benefit you and your children too. Forgiveness sets you free so that you can be at ease with peace of mind, even with your ex's new love life.

To conclude, just keep these tips in mind at all times, and beyond the above tips, remember this: When it comes to the relationship between parents and their children, there should be more than enough love for everyone, and then some room for new love too.

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