by Vicki Phipps

Created on: June 07, 2009

Are you a single parent, and of course, are you divorced? Did your Ex find someone new to love, and as hard as you try to deny it, are you feeling just a bit threatened by that love? If each of the questions above are true and you feel threatened by your Ex's new love, welcome to the club! Please read the following list of tips to help you deal with this.

THE THREATENED BY MY EX'S NEW LOVE CLUB: TIPS ON DEALING WITH THIS

1. Remember this: What you resist will persist.

As hard as it will be to do, you must refuse to resist the relationship your Ex's new love develops with your children. Just try to keep in mind at all times that no one in heaven, on earth or living within the universe can ever replace the role you play in your children's lives. Besides, your Ex's new love just might be a blessing in disguise. Children need all the time, love and attention they can get, and considering their need for security, don't allow your Ex's new love to become your enemy.

2. Be wise. Don't criticize.

A bitter mind tends to brew into a stew that only poison's you, as you insanely wait for your ex and his new love to pay the price for the stew you brewed, so don't create bitter issues. Keep in mind that time heals even the deepest wounds, so count to 102 if you have to before you say or do anything to criticize, condemn or judge your ex's new love.

Try with all your might not to make your Ex into the bad guy, because even if it's true, the issues that come from those who criticize, condemn and/or judge, will come back to haunt you. Give your Ex and this new love the benefit of your doubt, and without a doubt, your children will figure the rest out. In the end, kids tend to be smarter than we think, and sometimes they see through wiser eyes than adults do when parents are dealing with huge issues.

3. Use an attitude of gratitude.

As insane as it may seem, the more grateful you behave, the more your ex mate and the new love will say or do to make you behave in a grateful way. It's true! Thoughts do become things, and create the way you behave, so strive to think positive thoughts at all times when it comes to your Ex's new love life. Otherwise, the hate you create will be your own mistake and ruin your children's view of you.

So, if your Ex and the new love decide to take your children on a trip, try to behave as if you are excited for them, or at least the children, and when it comes to your Ex's new love, behave in a way that

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