You assist someone grieving the loss of a loved one by being kind. Tactile gestures are appreciated. Most mourners accept being hugged or having their hands gently squeezed.

If the person is in shock take the necessary precautions. Sedatives are most often used. Encourage the sufferer to lie down. Tight clothing needs to be loosened. Provide a blanket cover. Clear the room of everyone. Prepare a hot, sweetened beverage for him or her to sip.

Ensure a peaceful atmosphere. Allow the person to rest. Most shock sufferers fall asleep quickly.

Following the initial arrest, most people are disorientated and unable to carry out everyday duties. Arranging for a house help or calling to advise family members and employers will be appreciated. In addition take care of shopping. Provide meals and assist with pets.

When the bereaved has partially recovered, help by allowing him or her to talk about the departed. It is important to listen. Encourage this. Ask the bereaved to recall special memories. Bring out photographs.

One of the most painful things about losing a person very dear is the guilt that is inevitably felt by the bereaved. Lamenting things that they could or should have done is to be expected. Provide sound assistance by allowing the person to mourn. If they cry so much the better as it is a release.

Touching and smelling things that belonged to the departed can help. Wearing clothes or items of jewelry, looking at his or her diary, sorting through personal belongings all help the mourning process.

Bringing out articles and letters which mention the deceased can be a source of comfort. Watching video footage of him or her taken at family gatherings or while on holiday can be beneficial.

Discussing a project to enlarge and frame a particular photograph of the dear departed is good. Finding something given to them by the latter is hugely helpful. These artifacts have great sentimental value afterwards.

Some people write books or articles as monuments to the lives of those they have lost. Others pen songs or poems. Creating lasting memories in any shape or form is to be encouraged. Even the simple act of reading his or her favorite book or listening to a song that reminds the bereaved of the deceased is comforting.

Assist in composing a letter to a loved one detailing how they feel about the loss. Reading it out aloud afterwards can be a great help.

Meeting with other friends or family members who are also

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