by Rachiel Alarcon

Created on: June 06, 2009   Last Updated: June 07, 2009

Marriage a lifetime commitment to that person whom you want to spend the rest of your life.

I have been married for a 1 year and there have been a lot of bumps along the way. We may have been together for the longest time but still, situations arise wherein, we either disagree or argue about it sometimes the littlest things other times, major decisions in our relationship.

There is no secret formula in having a good marriage.

None. Zero. Nada.

Though I think there are certain rules that can be followed by married couples however there is not one rule that will be applicable to all.

It varies.

Communicating with your partner is one of the important tools in maintaining a healthy relationship.

People cannot read minds. Not everyone is given a gift to do so. Speak your mind but with caution. At times, we feel the need to let our emotions out so that our other half can understand what is going through your head.

True, but you have to understand that the words coming out of could at times make or break a relationship which is why we should always proceed with caution.

In relationships, married or not, trust is one quality that gets violated time and time again. Others intentional and the others not. Once trust is lost, it is very hard to give it back and for the person who took advantage of it, to re-gain it.

We all know how it feels like to be betrayed by a friend, a relative, or by a colleague but it is far more difficult to hold your head up high and accept the betrayal from your partner your husband or wife.

I know it is ironic but I guess, that is the beauty of marriage. The arguments, the pain, the apologies, the 'I'm sorrys' and more! It just spices everything up!

I know my husband and I have a long way to go. Probably, a lot of arguments, sacrifices and hardships will come our way yet I also know that along with that comes the respect, trust, love and fidelity.

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