by Amber Weier

Created on: June 05, 2009   Last Updated: June 07, 2009

While planning a wedding and keeping it completely stress-free is nearly impossible, there are a few tips I have learned to help make it easier. My future husband and I began planning our wedding several months ago, and it has been a roller coaster. The whole event of planning the wedding became a true test of our relationship. We discussed nearly every aspect and butted heads more times than I can count.

It is extremely important to compromise and work together. One piece of advise to ease wedding drama is to make a list of your "must haves" and your "can do withouts". What details have you been considering that you are absolutely no-budge on? What things can you let slide without sacrificing a major part of the wedding?

In our case, first we picked out a date, of course they were not on the same day, or even in the same month, and that was when the arguments started. Then we decided on how many people we wanted to invite, we came up with different numbers. When the "where are we having this thing anyway?", came up we knew we were in trouble. It was obvious that we had very specific ideas of what our wedding would be like. We had gotten so caught up in the moment of being engaged and letting our families know the big news that we hadn't really taken the time to sit down and figure out the little details of our wedding wishes . When we began to put our heads together and plan, it was beginning to look like the wedding might not happen at all. At this point we threw on the breaks, and had a long talk about what we were doing. I made a list of what I wanted, he made a list of what he wanted. we traded lists and started asking questions. We managed to untangle the messy knot and began to tie a beautiful one.

Another important piece of advise is, that is a special day for the two of you to celebrate love and taking a big step as a couple. It is not about what anyone else thinks you should do, or wants. There is no law that says "your mother gets to invite her bridge club, and Uncle Arnie can DJ because he has an awesome computer." Prevent wedding day drama before it has a chance to show up, after all, stress is not on the guest list.

Planning a wedding is a complicated dance, with tricky steps, so put on your dancing shoes and try not to step on any toes. It is one of the most important days of your lives, take plenty of time, and if you have doubts, talk it out. Communication is your best friend when it comes to nearly every aspect of a relationship.

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