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I have found that finding forgiveness in yourself has to happen before others can forgive you.in all places of life.you need a comfort level within yourself.expectations create a problem. after settling these issues within myself i can say that my relationships have gotten better and more fulfilling. I am more accepting,patient,objective,an d I also discovered I am not perfect and do not have to be right.

my husband is far from perfect, but he is the best.he has horrible annoying habits.sometime he is outright lazy.and i would not change a thing about him.he is warm,loving and gentle. he listens when it is important and accuses me of clucking when it is not. we laugh,cry,applaud and raised 1 boy to adult hood togeather.successfully.there are 2 more up and coming.none are my husbands. only 1 is mine. where they all came from is not important. just that they are here is enough for us.we are a family. we are friends.
another part of me moved about 800 miles away. she is not perfect . I would not change a thing about her either. with all the bumps and quirks about us I think it is a beautiful thing.most things that we do,think,and talk about, are from completely different poles.but we listen, laugh ,cry and reach out to and for each other when the minute arises.we are not related by blood.we related by humanity. we are family. we are friends.
another part of my life live 3 houses away. we talk every day. they have become a large part of my everyday life. sometimes an important part. but they are just that. neighbors. " acquaintances." and that is because there is no forgiveness in them . just needs. from a favor to a chat. they have no comfort level.unless it has a $ sign or you are filling a a need.they are always ready to insult,argue,or put someone down.
1 town away is a woman who is a true "friend" we talk daily. we do not always agree but a lot of our ways are the same and we have a lot in common.she is a big part of my life also.
family ,friend, what ever you are. find your comfort level and the rest of the relationship will follow.with all it's problems.
wrap your arms around it and accept it for what it is. or let it go.
keeping these things in mind make my days better.

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