by Brenda Lee Chew

Created on: May 29, 2009   Last Updated: June 03, 2009

When the question comes about asking if I would support a competition; I find myself not wanting to support it. I have to truly determine what the competition is for. If it is to raise money for someone or something, then I will support it as a fundraiser, but not as a competition. I see not one thing positive coming from a competition. If someone could prove that something good has come from one, I would consider the thought of changing my mind.

The reason that I am so against competitions has to do with the fact that every competition someone is going to have to leave as the loser. As far as I am concerned anyone who took time to compete in anything is definitely by no means a loser. Please explain how making someone feels as though they are a loser is worth supporting competitions. After losing in a competition the individual will have low self-esteem causing a negative in the next competition to come forth.

From the other side of the conversation, let us talk about the winner of a competition. When the individual becomes a winner will turn and walk away believing in the individual's heart that they are the winner because they are the best. It is nice to win but yet some competitions cause the individual to become full of pride. Once the individual wins, it is easier each time to win over and over.

I used to believe that competitions support improvement. We would do math competitions in school with flash cards. Every time we would try to get better and better, faster and faster. Then I started to notice the one whom was winning in the flash cards began to feel some self-worth, making it possible to become the next winner. The individual has gain confidence that others lacked.

As I became a parent, I met each one of these issues. I had a daughter that everything she tried out for she would win. Everyone began to love Jayme, she was full of self-confidence. She started gather a little too much pride. It was not shown to most people but inside our family home some damage would one day take place.

My next child was my son, He would try out for many things and my daughter would always tell him, there is no need to try out because he did not have what it took to win. My son would turn and walk away; I could see the pain within his heart. I would tell him if he wanted to try out then he should do just that. I spoke to my daughter and told her it was wrong because she should encourage her brother. She would tell me that she was only speaking the truth and

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