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Sex only relationships are great for certain people and often those who seek this type of arrangement consider themselves fortunate when they manage to find someone who feels exactly as they do. This is the absolute key to having a sex only relationship that can be fulfilling and thrilling at the same time.

People who contend that a sex only relationship simply can't work are living in a dream world. Somehow they have sex and love mixed up and feel it's simply not possible to have enjoyable, euphoric sex without love. It would make sense that it is younger people who still look at the world through rose-colored glasses that tend to feel this way. They still believe in love, marriage, and living happily ever-after. However, most people who seek sex only relationships have played the love game many times and lost. Perhaps they have even had a failed marriage or two, or just end up having heart-ache every time they let themselves fall in love.

Like it or not, the second strongest urge humans have after self-preservation is pro-creation. It's unfortunate that this urge does not magically disappear once creating more children is no longer in the equation. What good is the urge to pro-create when one has been married once or several times and has had all the children they ever plan on having? It seems like it's nothing but a cruel joke, but yet it is what it is and some steps have to be taken to fulfill the burning sexual desire that persists. Those steps might include masturbation, pornography, child molestation, rape, incest, or any other means of fulfilling this sexual void that exists whether humans like it or not. It's horrific that this need to fulfill a sexual urge can manifest itself in so many evil ways. There have been habitual pedophiles and rapists who have almost begged to be chemically castrated because they simply cannot control and do not want sexual urges that simply refuse to go away.

Why in the name of all that's holy do people still have the urge to pro-create when they are senior citizens? After all, that's what a sex drive is. That's what perpetuates the human race, but surely it wouldn't hurt to have a switch that turns off before we are 85 or 90 years old. Like it or not, it appears that the drive for sex isn't easily pushed aside and ignored.

If this is the case, how can it be so wrong for two consenting adults to have a sex only relationship? Why do so many people feel there is this need to fall head-over-heels in love before fulfilling a natural sexual desire that we are saddled with whether we like it or not? Why is there this stigma that says having sex without love is dirty or cheap? Why do sexual favors have to be fought for and earned through the same tired mating-games and ritualistic courting that people have gone through over and over again and are simply tired of?

How can it be so wrong to know that your lover is coming over Friday night at 9 p.m. for great sex and is going to stay overnight, have breakfast and then leave and do whatever it is they do with the rest of their life. What a thrill it would be to know that great sex is on the way with none of the usual game-playing to muddle through. In the process, there are no expectations, promises of undying love, or emotional baggage left behind for one to wallow in.

Are sex-only relationships a good thing? If consenting adults have reached the stage in their lives where this is their best option, then you bet it is.

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