by Gerald Drueppel

Created on: May 23, 2009   Last Updated: May 26, 2009

Bucking Change

The best advice I could give concerns the road to appreciation. Life only seems to conspire against some of us. I know it can be very difficult and even attempting to make the silver lining reference would only serve to antagonize the individual who going through a rough patch. But I must stress that some of it may be necessary for without it, appreciation could not exist. Without contrast we would live in a dull colorless world where nothing stands out. Where everything blends in. A paradise without appreciation. If you have experienced tragedy and by now I am sure most of us have, then the future becomes almost irrelevant in any scheme of things. The world just no longer makes sense. "Why?" becomes every other word. Re-evaluation and reassessment of what is important in life, though it seems unfairly thrust upon you, is still an opportunity nonetheless. For it is up to you to determine what you learn from the experience. It is ultimately up to you to decide if and when things will go back to normal for normal itself may need to be redefined.

Uncertainty can be the greatest cause for course deviation on any life path. I have been one of those people changing their mind all the time. Second guessing every decision made. It is difficult to attain and maintain confidence as the crow flies. To journey forth with the your next destination in mind with due certainty that there are many more destinations to proceed it. Even once you regain a measurable degree of individuality. There may still remain, hopefully it may not always be so, influences that try to transform you back into that mode of indecisiveness. That mode entails the undermining of confidence and dulling of instinct.

It is not easy going through life and making the difficult choices the correct ones. It is even more difficult to decide what is best for you and what may be best for those you love. Sometimes it is apparent from the start that each important decision comes with its own quantity of regret. So a fundamental inquiry might be: What can you live with and what can't you live without? Just always remember that an informed decision makes a wise decision. The more informed you are, on any matter, the less likely and the less severe the regret for that decision is to occur. Both regret and appreciation are cogs to the same wheel. Both allow us to forgive forget, fathom and feel.

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