by Kate Johns

Created on: May 23, 2009   Last Updated: May 29, 2009

The sex is great! Don't you find that at the beginning of a new relationship the sex is surpassing all expectations? After several years the relationship mellows like a fine wine. Then the sex takes a turn for not so fine wine, becoming rather dry and predictable. The spark can go out of a relationship. There are at least ten reasons why sex gets to be rather dry, and what you can do to spice up your sex life.

1. The stress factor. Sex can go right out the window due to a stressful situation such as a bad economy, people losing their homes, and people working harder to keep their jobs. What can you do to de-stress? Have more sex, that's how you beat stress. Sex is a great de-stressor. It causes positive hormones to flood your body and it makes you feel happy.

2. Exhaustion will keep you up at night but for all the wrong reasons. Worrying about the future, your job, getting up for nocturnal feedings for a newborn, and illness can keep you awake at night. This will cause exhaustion and the need for sleep instead of the need for having great sexual relations. What can you do to get more sleep and have better sex? Have a relative take the baby for a night so that the two for you can have much needed romantic time. You can also sneak in a quickie when the baby is asleep or taking a nap, that will rev up your body, and relax you into blissful sleep. Sleep when the baby sleeps. If you have a cat napper, try to sleep then, or ask friends for help. Ask your partner for a romantic backrub when you are ill-this can help light the romantic fires also.

3. Illness will keep you from having great sex. Having a long- term illness such as cancer, or heart problems can keep you from performing well in the bedroom. Even short term illnesses such as the flu, a cold or bad allergies will have you feeling lousy enough to forgoe a tumble in the sheets. Once you are on the rode to recovery, initiate sex again. When you have the energy and feely well enough, take your partner in hand and have sex-this will keep the bond between you and help you feel better.

4. Very much like the movie, "Groundhog's Day", where the star, Bill Murray lives the same day every day, having sex the same way each time will put a damper on your sex life. It is human nature to become bored and eventually turned off by having the same "Groundhog's Day" sex every time out. Stop living the same sex scene over. Try something different. Go out for a night on the town. Meet him at home for lunch.

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