by Eva Nichols

Created on: May 22, 2009   Last Updated: May 23, 2009

It is Christmas Eve and she is all alone and she wants him to be with her. However, she is not his wife and he must be with his family and yet she is all alone.

These are just one of the challenges a woman must face in having an affair with a married man. She has to be his part time lover and must share him with his wife and family. She must ask herself is this fair, or is she settling for less to have a little bit of passion at his conveniences. The question is "Who is the true winner in this situation?

The wife could be the winner, after all she probably have not any idea she is sharing her husband with another woman. Or she could know and when he tells her he is working late, she could be at home crying her eyes out. Or she could be in a situation where she has not any choice in the matter. The wife loves her husband and treasures her wedding vows, her family, and has invested her life in making her marriage work.

The Mistress could feel like she is the winner, she does not do some of things the wife must do. She gets someone else's husband, the sexual pleasure, and when it is all over she can send him home to his wife. Unlike the wife, she does not have to wash, iron, and clean up behind the man like the wife has to do. Even though, it's only part time it is better than not anytime.

The husband could be the winner; he has the pleasure of loving two women. In his eyes, this is heavenly what men would not want the love of two women. He has the best of both worlds and only has commitment to one. He has no intention of ever letting his wife know about his mistress and he always want the mistress to think he is misunderstood by his wife. Why not keep both of them blinded to the truth.

The truth be told, he is being unfaithful to the both of them. He has no intention of leaving his family for the other woman. Statistically, not many men leave their wives and married their mistresses. Usually, the wife finds out and divorced her husband for being unfaithful. There are several challenges in having an affair with a married man. It is up to the other woman to make the decision on whether she wants to be second or she wants to be number one. It is also up to the married man to be truthful to his vows he has made to his wife.

There are several factors that could destroy a lot of lives that are involved in this situation. For an example, if there are children involved, it could cause a lot of pain in the event if the marriage is broken due to infidelity. If you take a good look at this situation, you will see that there are not any winners!

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