by F.M

Created on: May 22, 2009   Last Updated: June 02, 2009

Your partner isn't communicating like he or she use to? A couple communication class won't do the trick!

Couples communication classes are expensive. Why pay somebody to teach you how to communicate with your spouse/boyrfriend? Why are you with this person in the first place? Wasn't it that person's lack of communication that made you fall in love with him/her? No couple, unless under certain circumstances, is forced to be with one another. Couples must understand that when committing to a particular person, you take the person's strengths and weaknesses. I'm not suggesting that the couple shouldn't improve the way they communicate, but couples communications classes seem a lot like an attempt to rehash something that isn't there anymore.

In most cases, only one person in the relationship wants to take those classes because they believe that his or her partner isn't putting as much effort in the relationship has he or she once used too. We are made to believe that if we keep pushing harder, we may get what we really want. In a relationship, there isn't a pushing on one side but a pushing on both sides. It could very well be that the person within the relationship who isn't communicating simply doesn't see how the relationship can benefit them. They have grown tired of your needless need to communicate. Why can't we all just give up and look for somebody who will communicate with us? There are other people on this earth and who willfully communicate with us. Relationships sizzle and communication classes may exacerbate the situation. If two people really did love each other, communication on both sides would not be a problem.

If the relationship isn't as bad, couples should try to communicate face to face without the technological lingo. By technological lingo I mean, cell phone, e-mail, chat, instant messaging, twitter, myspace and facebook. We live in a technologically advanced world. We do all sorts of things through machines. It facilitates communication. But all of these mediums can push a couple away. That's a problem! For a couple, a medium may not be a tool of choice. A couple communication class typically requires a third party. A class is no different than twitter and facebook. It's best to let go of these items or mediums and talk honestly and also face to face. Its creates an emotional but also a physical bond. Face time is always the best time.

Finally, couples communication class is not the way to go. It's bothersome and expensive. Just sit down and talk already; and, if that doesn't seem to work, you are free to leave!

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