by Reshmi

Created on: May 21, 2009

Men who are mama's boys do not make good husbands in the beginning but with care, instruction, and common sense they can become good husbands. It all depends how this "mama's boy" handles the responsibility between his wife and his mom. Mama's boys who do not know their boundaries cannot be good husbands. In general Mama's boys are raised only to care for their Mom and no one else should take precedence. However, with the right use of common sense a mama's boy can be a good husband and a good son at the same time. Unfortunately my husband still has a lot of learning to do. My husband and I dated for nine years before we decided to get married. We met in high school at a young age of 16. At that age we were better friends than anything else. We enjoyed our youth by participating in group activities, hanging out with friends, and confiding in each other when life started to get complicated. At such a young age I did not understand that dating a man who is kind and fun is not the ultimate reason for marrying one.

Before marriage my then fiance's requested that we live with his parents after marriage. When I first started to get to know them I thought living with his Mom would not be such a bad idea. It couldn't be too bad since I was already used to living with my own parents. In addition my in-laws house was big enough for our privacy. I was wrong. Once we got married and moved in together, I started to notice that no matter what my husband and I did, whether it was making vacation plans, hanging out with friends, or just discussing our financial or life goals, my mother-in-law always seemed to know what we spoke about. There was never a true sense of privacy between myself and my husband without her knowing about it. It's not to say that my mother-in-law and I didn't get along, but some things are meant to only stay between a husband and his wife. After being married for a little over a year, my husband and I had our first fight as a married couple. We argued in the privacy of our bedroom and when things got too tough for him to understand, he ran down to his mom and brought her to our bedroom to judge who was right and who was wrong. It felt like being 5 years old in a 25 year old body fighting with my younger brother and having my mom settle the score. The minute I would open my mouth to say that this is between us and no one else, I would get the accusation that I didn't treat his Mom right.

My mother-in-law would never interfere directly but she would

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