We live in hectic times. We work many hours in the day taking care of home, family and hopefully self. It seems like having any energy at the end of the day is spent crawling into bed to sleep. The thought of being intimate with a mate or partner almost turns the stomach. There just isn't anytime for sex, even if you wanted to. You're just plain sick and tired of sex! Well you're not alone. Many experience these down times in their sex life for one reason or another.
Extreme stress could be a dampening cloth which cools sexual attraction for some. Long hours at work, trying to make a living in economic hard times, dealing with illnesses or dealing with people in general puts untold stress on a person. Emotional and physical burdens, due to stress, can be heaped upon you. You could lose all interest in things that once matter, such a sex.
Women who are going through the change of life can experience a loss of interest in sex, even start hating it. Hormones are all out of whack, which cause women to go from hot to cold in an instant. At this time in a woman's life, dealing with the changes of her body can be tiresome. When hot flashes occur, it can leave a woman so mentally and physically tired, sex is the last thing on her mind.
Women who have undergone a hysterectomy can lose interest in sex. Their bodies are no longer the same. What drove their interest in sex could now be replaced by their need to adjust to what changes have taken place within their body. The desire to have sex can now be the catalyst which makes her sick of it. This can affect her mentally, the effect can be a total shift towards sex all together. Her whole chemical balance changes, leaving her emotionally detached or dead regarding sex.
For some career oriented men and women, especially those who put in long hours at work to rise to the top of their field, sex plays second fiddle to their career. Their focus in life is more on getting ahead than maintaining a sexual relationship. Sex could become more of a chore, than a pleasurable experience. Their career is their love.
Children have a way of putting an end to a once normal sex life. Long hours tending to their needs, overseeing their activities and making sure they are cared for, can cause some parents to let intimacy go in there life. Sex is out the door, replaced with the need for sleep.
Some medications can mess with the chemical balance in men and women. Especially if the medications taken are for serious illnesses or pain. These medications block some brain functions, one of which could be the function that triggers sexual desire. For whatever reason, the medication dulls or stops all together the desire to have sex.
If a woman has just had a baby, interest in sex can wan. Her body is trying to heal itself from bring life into the world. This is true especially for those women who've had cesareans. Post childbirth recovery and sex aren't good bedfellows. Also postpartum depression can set in after childbirth. When this happens to a woman, it takes all her energy and mental strength to focus on the baby and self. She switches from being lover, to being a mom. Sex just doesn't appeal and can truly make a woman sick just thinking about having it.
Depression in general attacks so many men and woman today. Trying to cope with those metaphorical walls closing in on them, a depressed persons need for or interest in sex falls to the wayside. When a person is depressed they can become indrawn, nothing else in life matters. Everything comes to a screeching halt. Sex at this point isn't even on the mind.
Societies warped views of sex today, can change a persons attitude toward sex to the point people find it disgusting. The perversions, over exaggerating or abuse of, can affect the mental thinking of what is normal in regards to sex in a relationship. The true and right need for sex comes into question. The result can be some actually become sick of hearing, thinking, or wanting to partake in sex.
Then there are some people who don't have any desire to have sex, ever. They are fulfilled with what life has to offer them, in a non-sexual way. Sex is just something others have. It's not so much they are against others having sex, it's just the thought of having a personal sexual encounter truly makes them ill. Their desire in life isn't about the physical contact, as it is being mentally connected to others.
For whatever reason a person has become sick and tired of sex, there are solutions to overcoming these views. Sometimes just taking time to refresh your body mentally and physically can change your whole outlook and approach to sex. Realizing that there is more to having sex than just taking a few moments for personal gratification. There needs to be human contact emotionally and mentally besides just the physical.
Others, might need the assistance of a sex therapist. There is no shame in this. Sometimes we can't help what changes our views and attitudes about sex. Things could have happened in life which call for help from a professional. A person might have to content with a bad sexual encounter. They could be dealing with a sexual abuse. So a professional sex therapist can help a person understand what it is or was which changed their view of sex in the first place.
Time could resolves a persons attitude towards sex. Sometimes you just need to reconnect with being human. Most days we hurry though life forgetting how to interact with others. In some ways we've become more robotic than human. The need for human contact is at times a passing thought. So just allowing time for ourselves to focus on our human needs, can ignite a spark to rekindle the intimate side of self.
As long as there is intimacy in a relationship, sex plays a roll along the fringes of it. Situations may dictate a new approach to it, maybe even taking a backseat, but it's there lurking in the shadows. Having a good, healthy and honest view of sex within a relationship is important not only to you, but with your mate or partner as well. Open communication regarding your feelings towards sex, at particular moment in your life can change a negative attitude into something positive.