by Janeen Elite

Created on: May 18, 2009

Dealing With Loneliness after Divorce. One of the most common emotions people experience who have recently gotten divorced is loneliness.

Even though the tension and stress in your life may have eased, and even though you know the separation might have been for the best, there still is this big empty space in your life where that other person used to be.

Maybe it is on the weekends when you were used to doing things together, or at the end of the day when you were used to coming home to someone every night. Suddenly the house can seem very quiet. This is even true of parents that still have the children. While it might not be quiet when you come home, there is also suddenly no other adult to talk to or help you to handle the load.

This is very common and luckily, it is only temporary. Granted it might take a little time to adjust to your new circumstances, but have no fear, in time your life will fill up with new activities and new routines.

Here are a few things you can try to ease yourself through this transition period:

Start making some new goals.

It is time to start looking forward instead of looking back. Don't look at yourself as being lonely start looking at it as the free time you now have to do the things you have always wanted to, but never had time for. Some examples might be:

Focus on eating better (you no longer have to worry about what the other person likes)

Exercise more

Spend more quality time with your children (if applicable)

Change your hair or clothing style

Redecorate where you live to more reflect your personal tastes

Clean out all of your closets and drawers and become more organized

Start a new hobby

Learn a new language

Find creative ways to make extra money

Spend more time on your spiritual development

Take classes at your local college

Get in touch with old friends

Spend more time with the rest of your family

Start exploring the internet for websites that pertain to your personal interests

Start Meeting New People

While it might be a little scary at first, there are tons of ways you can meet new people on your own. (This has nothing to do with dating, by the way. If you are recently divorced, it might be a little soon to get involved with someone new. This is the time you should be spending getting to re-know yourself as an individual, and not as part of a couple.)

Doing some of the following things are perfect ways to get to know new people who share common interests with

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