by Lyn Michaud

Created on: May 17, 2009   Last Updated: May 18, 2009

Type this question into a search engine and click on the comments on any men's website and you'll probably find suggestions and techniques for sensual gratification. While there is an appropriate place for this type of advice, women are emotionally complex and pleasure is rooted in these emotional connections.

Be kind to animals

Guys know that puppies attract a woman's attention. Women have a soft spot for a tough guy who donates to or volunteers at animal shelters or takes in stray pets.

Tip fairly and be respectful to people who provide a service

If you are a stingy tipper, the service won't be as good. Keep in mind that a too extravagant tip might give the impression you expect the waitress etc. to owe you something in return. Respect and consideration for everyone who provides a service shows a woman, you care about people.

Share the chores

According to social conditioning household chores have long been considered woman's domains, but having someone to share them with and make it a game or race does make the chores easier. Instead of procrastinating or complaining about household responsibilities make them into an entertaining challenge and a woman will show you how much she appreciates the effort.

Go shopping with her

Some women love to shop, it's almost a sport or hobby. She'd love to have you along to praise how great she looks in the clothes she tries on, commiserate about the high prices and compare the benefits and values of similar items. Shopping does not always mean spending money; she might be just a spectator or spy checking out trends. On those days when she absolutely must shop for food and household goods, she'll appreciate the extra hand as long as you don't stuff/sneak items into the cart. She loves to have you play her valet. Follow her with both of your hands firmly on the handle of chard, eyes open and cognizant of the moment she'll reach back to drop an item in the cart.

Respond to her mood

When she's happy, you're happy. When she's sad, hug her, massage her neck and try to improve her mood without demanding she feel better. When she's mad extinguish the flames with a goofy safe-phrase or word. Safe words are used most often in consensual games when no might mean yes or encourage more. To borrow this technique, think of something silly that is personal to the two of you or adapted from popular culture. Overhead one afternoon, Want to squeeze my Charmin?

Listen to her without offering advice

Understand that when she presents a problem (about work, about home, about friends or family) she's not seeking for you to solve the problem. And if she does want assistance, she'll tell you. Women communicate verbally, chat with friends, chatter and gossip. If she lets you into this circle as a confidante, it is just her way of connecting with you and letting you feel special. Appreciate the opportunity instead of asking her to keep things to herself or attempting for fix everything.

Take her side

You can be her defender, her knight, not necessarily in hand-to-hand combat. In any family/friend squabble, whether you agree with her or not in public support her. She will appreciate your consideration and you'll score points for showing the world you stand with her.

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