by Dawn Hawkins

Created on: May 17, 2009

Infidelity can be defined as one person in a relationship who has had a sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship. This is a great way to start a battle that you may not want to find yourself having to fight. There is only one way to ensure that the dangers of infidelity stay away from your doorstep. That is to not do it.

Here are some of the dangers of cheating in your relationship:

Loss of the Relationship

The chances that your relationship will end because of an affair are quite high. It is very difficult to live with someone that has cheated. Nearly everyone in the world can agree with that. Having a sexual relationship is and should be a very personal thing. Sharing that outside of the relationship without the knowledge of your partner can easily change the feelings of the partner who finds out about it.

You have to sincerely question yourself when you are considering having an affair. Hasty actions are the ones that often cause our greatest hardships. Think very hard about whether you truly want your relationship with your partner to end before you jump into bed with someone else. You may not lose the relationship. Maybe your spouse will be forgiving of it. You don't know that for sure though, until it is tested. Make sure that you feel it is worth the cost.

Trust

If you don't lose the relationship, you probably will lose the trust that your partner has had for you. Trust is a very hard thing to gain once you have proven that you aren't trustworthy. Although it is often given freely the first time around, once you have "blown" it, you may never get it back.

Your partner will probably never look at you the same way. Even though you may move on from it, your partner will always have it in the back of his/her mind. It will rule everything else you do from that point on. It truly isn't worth the hassle. It is better to work on the relationship to find out why you want to cheat in the first place.

Disease

There are some dangerous diseases out there. AIDS is one of the deadly ones. This can be passed to you and then in turn to an unsuspecting partner. You can't "tell" is someone has this disease by looking at them. It is simply not that easy. There are many other types of STD's (sexually transmitted diseases) out there. You can die from some of them. It is not fair to your partner to put him/her in the position of getting sick because you couldn't control yourself.

Having an affair has many dangers. It causes an emotional roller coaster that you may not be able to stop. You will be adding a third person to a relationship that was meant for only two people. The chances of someone getting hurt in the process is overwhelming. If you feel as though you want to be with someone else, it may be time to get counseling or end the marriage. Infidelity truly isn't worth the price you pay for it in the end.

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