by Dina Sullivan

Created on: May 17, 2009

I have someone very special in my life that has a lot of really good advice and really good insight about us seeing ourselves as a unique being. He says you shouldn't be closed minded, don't let outside things, or situations derail you of being yourself. Don't let anyone influence you in any way of where you want to go. If that makes sense.

Like open-ended questions in counselling, I feel he was doing that with me. We were watching a movie, a documentary about Quantum Physics and after they say something about a good point, he would pause and then ask me what I got from that. What did I think. Of course, I wasn't really on the ball but close. And then he would explain it to me. By asking a question with a need for reply, really opens your mind because you have to think about how you are going to answer the question. It really helped me to understand a little better. I feel it's really therapeutic to come up with your own responses, without someone guiding you to an answer. And now, I am so interested in this type of counseling and Quantum Physics now, that I want to learn more about it. I love that I get excited about something challenging. I feel it gives me purpose. I feel like I'm in more control of my thoughts.

Everybody wants to know why we are on this earth, and I really don't think I'm going to find an absolute answer to that, but it will be fun and exciting to try to find the answer. I guess I'm not really expecting to come up with a absolute answer, just a better understanding of it all. Better understanding about myself, and about other people. This world is so big with so many possibilities, it's never going to come to an end of us searching. And you will always find new and better ways of doing and seeing things. If it's your own ideas or findings, or someone else's. It's a never ending cycle, and in a weird and funny way, that gives me comfort because I will always be striving to find out the answers. If I lost you there, sorry. I just like really looking into things and thinking about it, even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else or it seems weird.

When someone else comes to me with their insight or idea of something, I immediately think of how they might be wrong and my idea is right. But, after yesterday with my conversation with my special friend, I know that it's not what I want to do. So I'm going to try and have an open mind. And maybe we can have another open-ended conversation. They really do force you to think about how you see and feel things, and that is very therapeutic.

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