by Tanya

Created on: May 16, 2009

Is it possible to love someone new, when your old love is so deep? How can you truly commit your love to a new person, when you are leaving a place reserved in your heart for that old flame. Love does not judge or compare. People tend to put their first loves on a pedestal. They see all the good in their love. They worship the ideals of that person, and they search for that over and over again. The confusing part of this is why did such a good love cease to exist? Why does it end, and why does that person who was so in love and infatuated find themselves here in this position, searching for a new love. A love that can live up to what they had? Is it even possible for your new love to live up to the standard? I write this sickened by the thought.

Looking on views from the outside and in, and wondering where does a search for love lead anyone. I start to doubt the existence of love. Why do people feel the need to say these words, it can be chalked up to selfishness. Especially when chanted in the presence of a heart that has already been given away. People claim to be in love just to try and feel that initial knot in their stomach, the pain in their heads, and the fluttering of their heart. Once this experience exists in our body we crave it like a drug. So why do such wonderful loves end? Why do we find ourselves in a situation where we try to fabricate this feeling with another person? It is not fair to try and recreate that. If you are selfish enough to lose the love that you had, maybe you should remain alone. Why should you get to try again. The result will be you ruining someone else in your search for the old love. Breaking them down piece by piece with your comparing and contrasting.

If you are truly in love with someone new, that all goes out the window. A clean slate should be granted, and your heart should be empty, and open to new experiences and new definitions. Otherwise you search will be in vain, for you are never going to find the same person twice. Perfection does not exist outside of the eye of the beholder. If you find that perfect person, you better stick with them and figure things out. Do not screw it up, and dont waste it. If you do screw up, and lose your first love. You need to be completely over it before moving on to the next person. While you are measuring the inadequacies of a new person, the real problem is existing inside of you and your inability to see them for who they are.

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