by M.A. Dal Cero

Created on: May 16, 2009   Last Updated: June 24, 2009

The statistics are staggering. It is often estimated that approximately 50% of the marriages which are taking place at this very moment will eventually end in divorce. Once extremely rare, or virtually unheard of, divorce has become almost commonplace these days. Why is this? Have we somehow lost the values that, in the past, held families together like glue? Are people marrying for the wrong reasons, too soon, or without really getting to know each other? Has the institution of marriage become akin to other replaceable things in life that, when we become bored or tired of them, we either dispose of like an old pair of shoes, or, like a car, trade in for a better make or model? Unfortunately, depending, of course, on individual circumstances, all of the above may be true. However, there are several primary reasons why many couples choose to divorce.

- Lack of Communication

Any relationship depends upon the effective communication skills of both individuals for its survival. However, many couples have either failed to learn, or have simply forgotten, how vital communication is in a successful relationship. The potential for misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and general unhappiness is greater when either one, or both, individuals fail to discuss their feelings, issues, and concerns with the other. Divorce is sometimes seen as the only option when a communication breakdown occurs within a marriage, and when neither person is willing to take the steps necessary to bring about positive change.

- Infidelity

Oftentimes, when problems already exist within a marriage, or when the relationship is not built on a strong foundation, people feel dissatisfied, unhappy, and unfulfilled. Therefore, the likelihood is high that, to paraphrase the old saying, the grass will begin to look greener on the other side of the fence. It is extremely difficult for a marriage to bounce back successfully after an affair has occurred, and many times, divorce is the only choice left.

- Money

It is not unusual for even the happiest of couples to occasionally argue about money, especially when the economy is struggling, and times are financially tight. However, there are instances in which the spending habits of one individual makes it impossible for the family, as a whole, to function properly. This is especially true when one person has a gambling problem, or if another has little or no regard for the ways in which he or she spends money. Money can become quite an emotional

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