by Yvonne Mccormack

Created on: May 16, 2009

If you have decided to elope then you have already decided not to include your family and friends in your actual wedding day. There are many reasons why people choose to elope. Some do it to save on the expense of a big wedding with all the trimmings. This kind of wedding can cost quite a lot, and if you are on a tight budget it can cause a lot of financial stress.

Some people elope because of family conflict, either with the brides family or the groom's. If you are the kind of person who feels uncomfortable being the centre of attention then eloping is a good option for you.

For some people they feel it's more romantic, just the two of them. It is romantic and after all you have your big day and your honeymoon all in one. If you want to make plans to celebrate after you get back from your honeymoon at least you will have this time together to make these plans.

There are lots of ways that you and your new husband can include your family in celebrating your wedding. First of all you have to make peace with all your family members, because some of them are bound to be hurt by the fact that you both went off and got married without them. Your mothers and fathers will be the most hurt so start with them first, the rest will follow their lead in how they react to your apologies.

After you have both talked to your families then you can discuss with them the plans you both made while you were on your honeymoon.This would be a good time to let your families get involved. If you have a party in mind you could let the parents organise this. There are a few things to organise for a party so other family members can chip in. This is a good way to help your families feel a part of the whole thing. Your family will feel like they are part of your wedding even though they missed out on the actual day.

You could both even wear your wedding outfits for the party, this would be great for taking family photographs. Your family will feel like this is the wedding.

If you are not the party type you could opt for a family meal. Let your family choose the venue, again this will help them feel a part of your wedding celebrations. Again you could both wear your wedding outfits. If your family wanted they could arrange for a small wedding cake to be bought out for the desert.

Another way to celebrate with your families is to have a mock wedding ceremony at home. This could be great fun you could have one of the father's being the celebrant, and you could make up vows. Then follow the ceremony with a nice home made meal.

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