by Dee Devers

Created on: May 15, 2009

Can a relationship survive without sex? Most likely. Can it survive without intimacy, not truly. Sex is so easy to find. On any given night or day there are millions of personal ads, phone sex lines and escort service to fulfill this very primal need. Some nights all you have to do is buy a drink or two in a club and Bingo!, you have what you need!

Intimacy, on the other hand is a pure form of communication or partnering that cannot be bought. It is the very bond and knowledge of two beings. It is knowing how a touch can give your partner shivers. It is a innate communication that sometimes takes little more than a glance or a smile. Intimacy is crucial in a long lasting relationship.

In order to survive, a relationship it needs to be nourished. The nourishment comes from inside. It is sometimes unspoken, but is there. The very knowledge and intimate feelings only two people truly in love feel. Two people who know each other inside and out. Two people that communicate either in words or by gesture. These people have committed themselves to each other and have that intimate bond. Without that bound there is not a purpose. Time goes by so quickly!

If you have that bond you know each and every second where you stand with your mate. You know he or she is there for you, even when not physically available. You have an assurance that if something where to make you dependent on our mate that they would be there for you. The two of you truly know, love and respect each other. It is an integral part of any long standing relationship. It cannot be bought or sold.

Intimacy can not be found in an ad, a phone sex line or even a bar or escort service. It requires time, love and understanding. Something a lot of us are not willing to give or receive. The next time you see and older couple walking down the street holding hands and glaring into each others eyes, take it in . Take a look at intimacy. You know they have had difficult times, life is just that way. They have something that has bonded them forever. Intimacy. Without it we are just people going from one person to the next. We have to have an intimate understanding and love for our life partner or there will be no such bond. You can go through life on a merry go round from partner to partner. You can wonder why you have not found that "one". You have to be ready to give freely of yourself. Sometimes, even more difficult you have to be ready to receive someone else. Not just the good, but the bad.

If your relationship is missing intimacy it may not be too late. Find it in each other. Spend time soul searching and getting to know the very essence of the other person that makes you one. If you find it is not there...will the relationship survive? Personally, I feel it will only exist. Live life with your partner to it's fullest and enjoy the very being of an intimate knowledge of each other. Spend your love and your time wisely and connect.

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