Bullying is toxic. it turns schools and playgrounds into war zones. A bullied child is made to feel embarrassed, sad, hurt and alone. Children are vulnerable. Negative interactions early in life can engrave deeply upon their futures. It affects their ability to trust, love, and to communicate. No child deserves to be teased, scared, or threatened. Our children deserve a safe space to live, learn and play.

Talk to your children about bullies. Teach them to treat others with respect. Tell your child to always report bullying to an adult. Advise them to avoid bullies as much as possible. Encourage children to walk away from any situation in which they feel threatened. There may be safety in numbers. If your child is being picked on, encourage them to stay close by a friend. Often the presence of another individual is enough to deter a bully.

Teach your child to act brave when confronted by a bully. Make it clear acting brave is not the same as starting a fight. Suggest they stand tall and clearly state "Leave me alone." Tell your child to remain courteous, but strong. Most bullies act tough for attention. When separated, they tend to be less brazen. Encourage your child to speak with a bully in private and describe how their actions affect others. They may be forced to reevaluate their actions. This can be a very empowering moment for your child. Encourage them to respond with grace.

If bullying becomes a recurring problem, contact a teacher or the bully's parent. Encourage them to remind the children to treat one another with compassion. When contacting teachers or other parents, always be respectful and discreet.

Discovering that your own child is a bully can be difficult. Your first instinct may be to defend your child. However, you need to stand firm; demonstrate bullying will not be tolerated. Never let them blame others; your child has the ability to treat others with respect. Make sure they understand how their actions hurt others.

Encourage your child to act more considerate in the future. Establish consequences for bullying others. Bullying is serious business. When not dealt with effectively, it may lead to physical violence. Encourage your child to think about their actions. Sometimes bullying is a response to anxiety.

Ensure that your home is free of bullying. Make it clear that teasing, shoving, or name-calling will not be tolerated. Most bullies are copying what they have witnessed. Urge your child to make an anti-bullying pledge, or present to concept to a teacher. The whole class could pledge against bullying together.

There are many great resources available. Teachers, school counselors, and other parents are the most obvious choices. You may also consult with your child's doctor. They can provide advice and local referrals. A therapist or other psychologist may help discover the root of your child's behavior. Remember you are not alone. Professionals who have dealt with bullying before are standing by with excellent advice.

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