by Cody Hodge

Created on: May 14, 2009

I think that if someone is getting married, you should just expect that whoever is getting married will talk about it. It is only the biggest event in a person's life, and I think that people have every right to talk about it. I wouldn't want that to be the only thing that someone getting married would talk about, but I can see where they would be excited. Just like you might talk about your new car, or something going in your life, why shouldn't an engaged co-worker not be allowed to talk about it?

Currently two of my co-workers are engaged to get married. One of them is a man, and the other a woman. What I think is funny is that my female co-worker talks about it so much more than my male co-worker. My female co-worker isn't being obnoxious about it, just that whenever I talk to my male co-worker, it is all about the NBA, or how much work sucks. With my female co-worker, it is all about her wedding, and other stuff like that. It is really funny when the two of them talk, and the female co-worker is talking about wedding plans, and the male co-worker just rolls his eyes.

The only thing that really bothers me about the talk is that I just don't care. I don't care how hard it is to find a photographer, or where the honeymoon is going to be. Not that I am not interested, or wish the topic would change, it is just so minute in the details, and I just don't care as much. I think it is more that guys just can't get interested in that kind of stuff, and not so much a jealousy issue that makes me feel that way.

I have been single the majority of my life, and this is partially out of my own choice, and sometimes not so much. No matter how or why I have been single, I have never been jealous of other people. Why should I be mad at my friends for having a relationship, or getting married? If I got married, I would hope that people would be happy for me, and at least listen when I talked about it. People have no real reason to be jealous of me anyway, and I don't see the point of getting jealous of others just because someone is getting married.

The only real issue I can see is if it interferes with the work that has to be done. If a wedding dominates the gossip, and the work is delayed because people are just focusing on a wedding, then the bride, or the groom to be should just stop talking. If the talk is being done during a slow time, and it doesn't interfere with the job getting done, I don't see why anyone should care. If you don't want to talk about it just don't be in the discussion.

When someone gets married, I can see where people could get jealous. I just don't think there is a reason to be jealous, and I think we should let people express excitement over a happy event. If you can't do that then honestly I don't think you are a very happy person, and probably won't get married yourself. Just lighten up, nobody is trying to show you up, and you should just be happy that your co-worker is happy.

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