by Victoria Tiegert

Created on: May 14, 2009

In marriage, we all want to feel like we are loved and cherished above all else in our spouse's eyes. In that love, we find security and inner peace. When we don't feel it, we are left with doubts and often become the stereotypical jealous husband or wife. We may question not only our spouse's love for us, but the entire relationship. There are some people who may really love their partner, but have difficulty expressing that love in a heartfelt way that their partner understands. If you are one of those, read on for some tips that will get you well on your way to making your husband or wife feel like the apple of your eye.

*Show your appreciation for the things that they do and the person that they are. This says that you haven't forgotten who you fell in love with and that you still notice them. This is a great way to express love to your mate. We all want to be appreciated!

*Presents are another way to express heartfelt love. It doesn't matter the size of the gift, it is the thought that you put into it that makes all the difference. For example, if I got my husband a new state-of-the-art oven, he wouldn't feel my love, but if I got him the same level of gas grill, he'd know that I was thinking of him. However, a big slice of chocolate cake would say the exact same thing because he loves it just as much as any high-ticket item. Presents are really just about letting the person know that they were in your thoughts and in your heart.

*Ask your mate if there is anything you can do to help them throughout their day. Maybe your wife would like some help with dinner once in a while. Maybe your husband would like you to take the trash out, even though he's usually the one expected to do it. There's actually a trick to this one...usually if my husband asks me if I need help with dinner, I feel so loved that I want to reciprocate and tell him no, that I'd rather see him get a break before dinner for himself.

*Do something for your spouse that will surprise them. Once in a while, I go out and clean the garage for my husband or he plants some new flowers in the yard for me. These are things that express our love for one another.

*Flowers, cards, and candy haven't lost their value in marriage, either!

*Verbally expressing your love for each other is a wonderful way of doing this. We all want to hear the words from our spouse's mouth that reassure us of their love, even if we know it in our brains. Our hearts feel it when we hear it with our own ears. Compliments are excellent, as well.

Feeling loved is an essential part of enjoying life and appreciating your marriage. Your partner will be more in love with you than ever when they feel loved by you. Cherish them, love them, appreciate them, and make sure that they know it. This is one of the most important rules for keeping a marriage alive and well today.

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