by Lindsey Trimmer

Created on: May 12, 2009

Marriage is a sacred commitment which is progressively being taken as lightly as high school dating. There are too many people jumping into marriage without the right formula for a successful relationship. The most crucial part of that formula is love. Without having a deep love for your partner, it would be extremely difficult to get past all those imperfections that we all tend to have. Without that kind of love, a marriage would be spent living two separate lives, not one.

Unfortunately, getting married without that assurance of an everlasting love can only lead to negative results. Statistics show that most men and women end up cheating on their spouses due to emotional needs being unmet, not sexual ones. This speaks volumes. Why get married to someone you don't love enough to keep your commitment? Things can get even more complicated if children are involved. You have now brought lives into this world that need stability and love from both parents. They learn by your examples and actions. They look up to you. They are a product of their environment. What is being said to them when they see their parents barely interacting with one another, let alone showing their children that they love each other? These types of marriages will more than likely end in divorce, which in turn becomes yet another problem that your children need to take on due to their parent's mistakes.

Settling for less than love will only result in an unfulfilled life. If someone is uncertain about getting married than all they need to do is wait! Why should anyone rush into something that may result in unhappiness? There is someone out there for everyone. It's just a matter of being picky and not settling for less. I'm not saying that when you do find the right person to marry, that it will be easy simply because you love them. Marriage is hard work and determination. You need to decide that you are going to make a marriage work before you tie the knot. A lot of people get married in a church. But not many people take to heart the oath that they pledge to one another in that church. They don't take the time understand how important their words are. Will you love that person, comfort them, honor and keep them, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, bestow upon then your hearts deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself unto only that person for as long as you both shall live? If you can honestly answer yes to all those questions then you are ready to marry. Not only are they the answers to a decision to get married, but the best advice to a successful marriage. Keep those wedding vows in mind each and everyday, not just your wedding day, and your marriage will thrive.

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