by Kelley Moss

Created on: May 12, 2009

If you look at the medical reports written about having a baby in your thirties it is indeed a risk, and according to some reports maybe not even an advantage at all for the baby or the mother. As for the baby, some of the risks are; birth defects, placenta previa (which means your placenta is low in your uterus, often covering the cervix, and causing bleeding), ectopic pregnancy ( also known as a tubal pregnancy), and worst of all, miscarriage. And for the mother there is the risk of; gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, and difficulty, for mom, during labor.

You see, I am a thirty-five year old, first time, mother-to-be. I am in my second trimester and so far have had no problems. My husband and I didn't plan on having children at all, let alone at our age. Don't get me wrong we are very excited and feel blessed. Years ago I was told by doctors that it would be very hard for me to get pregnant, and if I did I would not be able to carry to term. But so far everything is going well. The baby and I are healthy.

As I sit here and reflect over what it might have been like if I had gotten pregnant and carried to term years ago. I am not only happy, but relieved to be experiencing this joy in my thirties rather then my twenties. Having this baby in my thirties I have had the chance to partake in the bar scene and partying that I was going through ten years ago. I feel that I will be more attentive to the babies needs and wants and not be the selfish person I was years ago. I have also started taking care of my health and eating better then I ever have. In hopes of making sure I don't get the gestational diabetes or other risks of having a child at my age.

And for the career most women want to have obtained before having starting a family. I still haven't reached that yet, but, I am confident that with the great support of my loving husband I will still be able to reach that goal. From the financial stand point? Well lets be serious here, who is ever really financially ready for anything life throws at them. Especially in this economy.

I know I will still have the new mom scares and this is a job that I really can't train for. I just have to take what comes at me when it comes along, but I am sure I will be better prepared to handling parenthood now that I am in my thirties rather then in my twenties. I'm not saying everybody should wait, but I am saying I'm glad I did.

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