by Jeanine Gilbert

Created on: May 09, 2009

To Remedy A Shaky Marriage

Relationships created on a firm foundation with plenty of reinforcements can stand the test of time. That is an important element for building a stronger union. Matrimony is a gift, with two souls coming together as one. Couples forget that the love they share is a gift, and should not be taken for granted, but to be cherished, and treasured for all time.

However, in this day we live in, marriage for better or for worse means. When its worse it is, consider a throw away, in our throwaway society. Couples do not work at a marriage to keep it healthy. They do not understand why it is failing. The easy remedy, I picked the wrong spouse, so divorce is the only option. Marriage Counselors say that divorce is an easy way out, a cop out!

Nevertheless, in some cases dissolving the marriage, when it involves abuse of some kind, is not an option, when your life is in danger.

Instead of finding ways out of the marriage, focus on more constructive ways to find a healthy solution. Not all problems will suddenly disappear; whether you get professional help or try to work this out on your own, it takes lots of patients, and love.

Back to the keys of a successful marriage, first, you need a foundation of some kind, or you have nothing. As the union gets stable and stronger, so will your foundation.

To be friends first, it seems that we treat our friends better than we do our own family! With couples, we forget about being friends, and go into the ill-treating spouse zone, because they will always be there, and so we can be as ignorant as we want.

The tongue can be sharp as a blade that can cut your heart out. Couples know how to create the most damage on their partner's weak side; some couples think of this as a game. Which partner can hurt the most before we have to call damage control? Remember, bite your tongue, your partner will forgive you, but will never forget!

Treat each other with love, and patience. If you must, fight nice, and do not hit below the belt. Set safe rules before you fight. Couples Weekly Pow-Wow, can solve many problems before they seed, and germinate into an explosive event.

Letting your partner be their own person, and not try to change who they are. You fell in love with the difference; and now you want to change it!

Respect them for who they are, and who they want to become, and trust them in their everyday decisions. That old saying set it free, and they will come back. If you love them enough to be their own person, with feelings, needs, and desires, and let them explore them in the bonds of marriage, they will experience freedom, and contentment.

In fact, explore, and discover the world together, even if it is in your own backyard!

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