by Judith Bonawitz

Created on: May 09, 2009   Last Updated: May 10, 2009

Many parents blame themselves for their child being gay. No matter how good of a parent you are some things happen. I learned to face that one of my children are gay. I don't love my child any less I don't treat my child any different way from my other children. But I have seen some parents take it out on other parents and even that child. I have been through that tonight.

My child had my okay to go bowling with some of her friends. Everything was going great and my daughter was smiling and having a good time. Another teenage girl shows up and starts to talk to my daughter. About half an hour later, the teens mother shows up and starts to chase my daughter around the building. I was in the bathroom and when I came out. I was upset. Three of my friends told me what was going on. My daughter called the police. My friends took me aside and told me what happened. This women hit my teen right across the face. My daughter asked her to stop several times. Then my daughter hit this women back to defend herself. Then this women tells me how could I have my daughter out bowling. That my child is this and that. I looked a her and stated: I can take my daughter anywhere I wish to. Just because your child comes in here does not make it a crime.

May people make it out to be a crime being gay. But that is the wrong way to hand it. In many schools around the world. Almost half of the students are gay. 25% of the students will say they are gay so others will leave them alone. My child's school teaches that being gay is okay. They even have gay walks. The best thing I can do as a parent is talk to my child. Tell her what the Bible says about being gay. Also I ask her a question. The question I ask her is: "What if the Lord only made two Adams? " The answer that I get back from my child is: " We would not be here." Then my child starts to think about what I just said. I do let my daughter know that I don't agree with her way of thinking. I don't stop my daughter from seeing some of her friends that are gay. I don't take things away from her. But I do let her know how I feel. I also listen to how she feels. Because she is her own person. we are all different no matter how you look at it.

If your child is gay. Don't get upset over it. Talk to your child. Find out why he or she feels that we. Some children are out there looking for love from a parent that don't live at home. Some child even look for love when they feel that they are not loved. Billy Gram said it best about how children go out looking for love and why. Don't sit there blaming yourself. It happens even to a both parent house to a single parent house. I sat down and blamed myself. But I had to sit back and look at all my children. My other children are not gay; only one is. So I put everything in the Lord's hands. The Lord can do everything. The Lord can do it all. Pray for your child more then what you do now.

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