by Yusra Ahmad

Created on: May 08, 2009

HOW TO "JUST GET OVER IT"

We've all been there, whether breaking up with a partner or dealing with unrequited love, and if you haven't yet then you're one of the lucky few. There is no easy way around having your heart ripped out of your chest and stamped on. Neither is there a magic cure for the shear pain of being dumped, especially if your object of desire seems oblivious to the torture they are putting you through. However, there are a few tips that can help you with letting go, moving on and mending your broken heart while making sure that you exit with your pride intact. Being spiteful or trying to get revenge on your ex might be a good for cheap thrills but bear in mind how quickly news travels so if you are planning to exact revenge on him consider how crazy it might make you look to your mutual friends.

It might sound typical or overused but the truth is that the key to letting go is "closure". In your own mind you need to understand that there is no future in this relationship and that your partner does not want to continue seeing you. Of course it doesn't help if they are confused themselves in which case you need to think objectively about your situation because the truth of the matter is that only you and your partner will ever know the full ins and outs of your relationship. Think about your situation and what advice you would give a friend if they had approached you with the same problem and listen to your own advice!

If that advice tells you to let go and get over it, then that is probably what you need to do and the first task on your list should be to delete your ex's numbers from your phone. There is really nothing more heart-wrenching than running across their number every time you look through your contact list, a constant reminder of what once was. It might seem like a drastic option that you aren't ready for as yet but it is the fastest way to remove them from your immediate thoughts and begin the healing process. In either case you won't have lost their number since you'll have a text message from them somewhere in your inbox or worse comes to worse it will be on your last phone bill but avoid calling or texting unless in cases of absolute emergency. You may not realise it but you need the space just as much as they do.

Everyone is different and there is no shame in dealing with the situation the best way for you without feeling guilty. Take however long you want to grieve over the situation, and surround yourself with people who

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