Pornography is everywhere you look. There are magazines, videos and the infamous internet. Men often look at pornography and each of them has a different reason for it. For some it is an obsession that can't be controlled. For others it is simply looking at beautiful women and for yet others it is to satisfy a sick need such as child pornography. Responding to a mans choice to look at porn depends on the reason that he has chosen to do so.
Beautiful Bodies
Men love to see the bodies of beautiful women. If a man doesn't enjoy seeing the body of a beautiful woman, he's probably gay. It is perfectly normal for a man to enjoy looking at these visions. There is really no need for alarm if you find out that he is looking at pictures of naked women unless he personally knows the women in the pictures.
The best way to handle this situation is to make him feel comfortable enough to tell you about it's presence. It is when he doesn't tell you these things that is cause for worry. If he knows that you will talk to him about it or that he can tell you what he is up to, then he will. Beginning a conversation about this issue shouldn't be a hot headed response to finding it. Consider the reasons that he may be doing it. It could be very harmless.
You should let him know your feelings on the issue and likewise, listen to what he has to say about it. Think very hard about what bothers you about it. If it is a trust issue or insecurity about yourself or your relationship, it needs to be said out loud. Most couples can come to a compromise where this is concerned. Maybe he can refrain from looking at it when your relationship is a little edgy. On the other hand, maybe you could excuse it when he takes a peek every now and then. As long as your sexual relationship doesn't suffer from it, there really isn't a huge problem to worry about.
Adding Spice
He brought some DVD's home to watch and you aren't so sure about it. The best thing to do again is listen to what he has to say. A man will usually enjoy watching these films with his partner. He sees it as a way to spice things up a bit. Maybe you could learn something new or different together. It doesn't mean that he thinks that you are not good enough for him or that he doesn't enjoy being with you. It is, in fact, quite the opposite. He enjoys being with you so much that even in a great sexual relationship, he wants to make it even better. This doesn't mean that he expects you to perform every act that is seen on the film. It simply means that there may be some things that you might like to try.
Finding new ways to enjoy each other sexually can make even the best relationships better. Intimacy often is put on the back burner for other things. Children come along or careers take a front seat while your sex life sits in the back patiently waiting for you. Looking at porn can be great foreplay as well. It has nothing to do with him wanting another woman. It has to do with fantasy. Everyone has those whether they are male or female.
Sick Desire
Finding out that the man you love has a desire for something sick such as child pornography is a completely different story. Not only that but it is completely illegal. If you find that he has a desire to look at these sorts of things, it is time for you to hit the road. This is not normal behavior. Children aren't sex objects and should not be viewed as such. Not only is it time for you to go, it's time for you to call the police. Pedophiles are often caught because they cannot stay off the internet sites that promote such atrocities. If he is looking at these things, chances are that he would willing be involved in the actual act of it. This isn't something that a wife can provide a husband after all.
Obsession
If a man has become totally obsessed with pornography, it is time for him to take a break. If his sexual desire can only be aroused by looking at porn, he has a problem. If he keeps a secret stash of magazines of "dirty" movies, he has a problem. If he can't be honest with you about it, there is a problem. It can become such an obsession that it's all he talks about or thinks about. When your sexual relationship is put on hold because of his need to constantly look at porn or act it out, it is time for him to get some help. This is not normal behavior at all.
Porn isn't necessarily a bad thing. It can do wonders for your sex life. It can cause great harm to relationships though. It should be something that all couples discuss before getting too involved with each other. Both people should be upfront and honest about whether they like it or not. If he wants to look at porn, figure out which of the above is true about him. Once you have figured that out, you can move forward on how to respond to him when he looks at porn.