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How do you respond when he looks at porn

Pornography is everywhere you look. There are magazines, videos and the infamous internet. Men often look at pornography and each of them has a different reason for it. For some it is an obsession that can't be controlled. For others it is simply looking at beautiful women and for yet others it is to satisfy a sick need such as child pornography. Responding to a mans choice to look at porn depends on the reason that he has chosen to do so.

Beautiful Bodies

Men love to see the bodies of beautiful women. If a man doesn't enjoy seeing the body of a beautiful woman, he's probably gay. It is perfectly normal for a man to enjoy looking at these visions. There is really no need for alarm if you find out that he is looking at pictures of naked women unless he personally knows the women in the pictures.

The best way to handle this situation is to make him feel comfortable enough to tell you about it's presence. It is when he doesn't tell you these things that is cause for worry. If he knows that you will talk to him about it or that he can tell you what he is up to, then he will. Beginning a conversation about this issue shouldn't be a hot headed response to finding it. Consider the reasons that he may be doing it. It could be very harmless.

You should let him know your feelings on the issue and likewise, listen to what he has to say about it. Think very hard about what bothers you about it. If it is a trust issue or insecurity about yourself or your relationship, it needs to be said out loud. Most couples can come to a compromise where this is concerned. Maybe he can refrain from looking at it when your relationship is a little edgy. On the other hand, maybe you could excuse it when he takes a peek every now and then. As long as your sexual relationship doesn't suffer from it, there really isn't a huge problem to worry about.

Adding Spice

He brought some DVD's home to watch and you aren't so sure about it. The best thing to do again is listen to what he has to say. A man will usually enjoy watching these films with his partner. He sees it as a way to spice things up a bit. Maybe you could learn something new or different together. It doesn't mean that he thinks that you are not good enough for him or that he doesn't enjoy being with you. It is, in fact, quite the opposite. He enjoys being with you so much that even in a great sexual relationship, he wants to make it even better. This doesn't mean that he expects you to perform


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