by Franchesca Bisignano

Created on: May 06, 2009

Domestic abuse victims will often stay with their abuser and they will often make excuses for why their abuser is abusive. Domestic violence is never acceptable.

There are thousands of women and children who are abused every day. There are also men that are in abused in a relationship but it is reported less. It is hard for a domestic violence is never acceptable.

People that are in abusive relationships often have a history of being abused in the past. Without treatment it is very likely that they will continue to either be abusive or be abused.

A person who does not have good self esteem is more likely to stay with a partner that is abusive. It is important that while we are teaching children that being abused is not acceptable that we also make sure that they know that no matter who it is abusing them it is not acceptable.

As a society we need to education both men and women on the affects of abuse. We need to offer advice and counseling to abusers and victims. By just treating the victims we will never solve the problem. If the abuser is not treated they will continue to abuse rather the victim stays with them or not.

One time is once too much. Our children need to be taught that it is never acceptable to hit or be hit. The first time your partner ever hits you that should be the end of the relationship. Many abusers and victims will deny there is a problem. It is important to face the problem and not ignore it. The abuse will not just disappear.

Be supportive if you suspect a close family member or friend is being abused. An abuse victim will not leave their abuser until they are ready. What you say or feel will have little impact on an abuse victim. It is important not to alienate anyone you suspect is being abused. If you think someone made be abused the best thing you can offer is friendship. Offer to be a shoulder to cry on without judgment and offer to be a safe place to your friend if needed.

It is important to be vigilante and careful. When in a relationship be prepared to deal with any issue that may come up including abuse. Familiarize yourself with signs of abuse. There are often red flags that happen in a abusive relationship before the actual abuse happens. If you notice red flags you should either in the relationship or insist on getting counseling with their partners before the relationship becomes abusive and is not able to be saved.

Learn more about this author, Franchesca Bisignano.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.