by Gina Gott

Created on: May 06, 2009   Last Updated: May 08, 2009

Friends are the family you choose for yourself . Recognizing a fair weather friend can be a very hurtful experience, but in the end just know you are better off without them . Although hard to spot at first, a rainy day friend will surely disappear on a cloudy day. On the other hand, a good friend will be that rainbow that you need after the storm.

They appear when everything is going good in your life and wear a smile of want . They want what you have. Whether it be popularity, money, or anything else. Whatever it is, they stick around only because you have something that caught their attention.

Being able to catch on to this type of person can be very tricky. Most have been using people for years and are very good at seeming sincere. Finding out the truth before it is to late can be hard, but there are many signs to look for.

A fair weather friend will turn their back on you when time's get hard. A true friend will be by your side helping you in any way that you need. If you have a bad day and call your friend for advice, pay attention to if they have time to listen to you.

A fair weather friend is a very selfish person. All they will truly care about is how they look, what others are thinking about them, and if you are up to their standards. If anything happens to you that would reflect badly on them, they will forget all about you .

A true friend is someone that you can call at four am and ask for a ride home . They might be a little upset at you depending on the circumstances, but they will get out of bed and come to your rescue. A fair weather friend is likely to hang up and never speak to you again.

Does your friend ask how your day was? Does your friend know about your family life? A good friend is someone who really knows you and often asks how you are doing . They can tell when something is wrong and they won't be afraid to stick around and help get you through a bad time. That is what a true friend is there for. The rough times will not scare them, but draw you closer together.

Just remember that if your friend turns out to be a fair weather friend, then that is that their loss. You will go on to find a caring person to be your true friend. They on the other hand, will always be lonely and end up with superficial people surrounding them until they have a bad time. Then they will probably be looking up your number.

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