by RhinoRalph

Created on: May 05, 2009   Last Updated: May 08, 2009

A married man should know the same thing a married woman should also know and that is among others that marriage is not an easy thing. Men and women should know that we as different genders react to life differently. In order to make marriage work love should be what lead the way to solve many problems that are going to come. Many people are going to the altar of marriage with the wrong attitude and they fail right at the beginning. The attitude of "if it doesn't work I will get a divorce" is the attitude of not tolerance. One of the attributes of love is just that, tolerance.

In 1st Corinthians chapter 13:4 "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant (5) or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; (6) it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. (7) Love bears all things, believes all things, hope all things, endures all things" This is talking about fraternal love or brotherly love. Although "Eros love" applies to married couple fraternal love is not eliminated regardless. I am using the Bible and not psychology to make my point stronger since the marriage institution had its origin in God.

When I first got married I went through hell within my first five years. Of course, my wife went through the same. We were together in this mess. Since our love was strong we were able to face horrible situations. Instead of going the easiest way out we decided to make marriage work. We discover we both had a lot of flaws as persons and we started working on it. The first thing I discover was how difficult it was for her to manage feelings. Instead of me trying to change her I just accepted the fact that she couldn't be as strong as I was emotionally and I just decided to support her and trying to be her strong shoulder she was looking for. By just doing that our marriage took off in a better direction. It worked almost like magic. That was the beginning for more discoveries I made about females. I discover also how sensitive she got in some periods. Since I started doing things that were supporting of her she responded by being supporting of my male inclination to logic and sometimes inability to pay attention to details or feelings.

Today's generation men are not proposing women to marry them. They are able to get sex without responsibility or love. Our generation has changed in which society had tried to equalize two genders that are not really equal. We are not only different physically

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