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them bad people. It just means they have not learned how to handle this particular emotion. They have not accepted Gods words of wisdom.

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. (James 1:5)

So what kinds of people are prone to harboring resentment?

People-pleasers

Non-assertive people,

Alcoholic and other addicts

Pent up past baggage holders

Unforgiving hearts.

Anyone can learn to free themselves of this terrible emotion and be content from within, no matter what others around them are doing or how they are behaving. Understand that "you cannot control another persons behavior", even if it is your own spouse! You have to get it in your mind that many aspects of life are not in your power to control. But you can control "how you react" to your spouse's behavior.

Secondly, you have to speak up when your spouse says or does something that is offensive. You still can't control or change them, but you can let them know when they have trespassed against your spirit. How will they know any other way? Do you think that if you treat them back with a bad attitude that is going to help? I don't think so. Learn to be nicely assertive about how you feel. Then treat your spouse back in a good and productive way. Get creative with your attitude.

Don't put your feelings on the back burnerbad idea. I know first hand that when we put our feelings on the back burner they mount up more and more negative garbage. If you are a woman reading this then you know that when your monthly rolls around hormones can literally get the best of our emotions. Do you want to contend with back burner resentment too?

Get past issues off your chest. Pray about it and ask God to give you the knowledge to understand yourself better. Understand that you are only damaging your own spirit through your own negative emotions. God will help you to feel better about yourself, spouse and marriage when you put your trust and faith in Him. He will allow your heart to be free of the burden of unforgiveness. Look for the hidden treasure of wisdom and God will bless you. Believe that!

The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. (James 3:17)

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