by Amela Piric

Created on: May 04, 2009   Last Updated: May 31, 2011

Women are more sensitive by nature than men by nature.  Thus, they are vulnerable for many reasons.  Still there is no single reason why they decide to have an affair as life is too complicated for that.  Every single woman who has an affair is driven and pulled by a whole range of conflicting needs and desires.

Below listed are some of the main reasons as to why some women cheat on their partners.

1. Independence.

The independent woman simply comes into contact with more men.  Beyond the fact that she is financially independent from her husband, she feels free as a person.  And at the same time she is meeting attractive men who are ready to wine her, dine her, or make love to her.  Thus, women's independence is by itself a pressure towards adultery.

2. Emotional Deprivation.

A woman may be married to a man but living her own independent life.  He may be a competent sexual partner on a physical level, but he is not able to provide her with affection, tenderness, or love that she desperately longs for.  She feels deprived emotionally and is desperate for affection.  She discovers a man who is eager to relate to her as a woman and responds to her with affection and tenderness.  Her emotional needs make her vulnerable to the tender touch of a man with feeling.

3. Need for Self-Esteem.

A woman may be wholly satisfied sexually but deeply discontented personally.  She may wish to work, go back to school, or simply build a new social life.  Her husband, used to the convenience of a dependent wife, gives her no encouragement.  But other men do. Other men appreciate her as a person and she may drift into a close relationship with one of them because of the esteem he makes her feel for herself; and thus she is vulnerable to even closer intimacy with those men.

4. Sexual Deprivation.

A wife in her middle age may be at her peak sexually.  But her husband may have become absorbed in business or he may be too preoccupied, tired, or depressed.  She may feels frustrated, hurt and perhaps a little embarrassed by her own inner excitement.  Thus she is vulnerable to any man who will affirm her sexuality and offer exciting promises of fulfillment.

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