by Wonda Waide

Created on: May 02, 2009   Last Updated: May 04, 2009

The importance may not be the adopted child itself but later it surely can cause some complications for parenting a child from an adopted child.Our parents genes are what we are built of and being adopted can cause some loss in information. Form personal experience I can understand the loss of parental genes can cause some loss in good parenting.

I have a three-year-old daughter that would always make as we called her funny faces and she repeatedly did them to make us laugh. We all enjoyed her humor, as she would always come up with some new facial expression to make us a most children do. Then one day she made an expression with her eyes crossed and it made me dizzy looking at her so I would say stop that you're hurting my eyes and she would stop so I just went with her funny expressions never thinking it was more than that. My side genes no one had to wear glasses so it just never came to mind it could be her not doing it on purpose until one day I started laughing and said stop that and she could not. I then new something was wrong. I took her into the doctor and as they did before she was born asking information on the father. I have no idea so the doctor told me to get her into see an eye doctor and until then by her eye patches just in case it something more serious then come back.

Well I did as I directed and I had to wait over a month to see the eye doctor, which made me very impatient of course. Then when I saw the eye doctor, it was a result of needing eyeglasses. I felt so horrible after the eye doc said the eyes patch was doing her no help again do I have anybody in my family who have to wear glasses no of course when it came to the father I had no information to give. After appointments and wrong prescriptions broken glasses it was about six months by the time she had glasses she could wear.

As a mother I felt guilt for the putting a patch on her eye as the doctor said as she could not do much with no background and the father did not have glasses or ever any problem with his eyes. The no medical history information hurt my child to know exactly what the doctor could say and as a mother I felt I failed for thinking it was her making a funny face instead she had needed glasses. I just hope and pray nothing in the future comes up where again I may need some medical history from someone adopted.

A child being adopted the medical history should be of great importance for the child being adopted and any future children he/she may have. It's something very important to know.

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