by Dexter Rogers

Created on: April 30, 2009   Last Updated: May 01, 2009

Without question nice guys finish last but it depends on whether it's within a particular relationship or do they finish last over time. This old cliche unfortunately happens to be true in many cases. It's too bad that in a society that pushes people to be nice, open, friendly and altruistic yet those are the qualities many women take advantage of and mistake these traits as male weakness.

I'm not speaking in regards to all women. There's always exceptions to the rules-even this one. But by and large women "say" they want a nice guy but yearn for the bad-boy with an edge. Instead of the male and female delving into the relationship free of judgement the situation becomes a chess match. The game centers on one central component: he or she who cares the most first that's who will generally lose out in the end. The person who demonstrates a willingness to go the extra mile, love unconditionally, and cater to the persons every need would seemingly be welcomed and appreciated. But in the end that's not the case. Such extension of love, caring, and affection is misconstrued and weakness which in time induces boredom.

Men who think they've found love feel they've found what they wanted while the woman prepares her wondering eyes for her next victim. One trick some women love to employ is to flirt with other men to gauge how the man will react. In her emotional way of thinking the woman will decide if the man gets jealous that he cares and if he doesn't then he's not worth the time. If a man doesn't respond with a jealous rage the man doesn't care so she'll shortly move on and the guy is left to wonder what's happening.

These type of situations could avoided if the woman simply asks, "So, how do you feel about me and this relationship?" Instead women opt for their emotional conversations they have with themselves and act out instead of constructively communicating.

Many men don't succumb to such games. Men are generally to rational or mature to deal with such games. But for those who feel like they've found "the one" they press on neglecting all the signs that his nice-guy, win at all cost attitude will only end with him searching for someone else.

Sad to say but the person who cares less will get cared for the most. The person who seemingly who is the bad-boy will get all the opportunities, fun, and attention. The latter is sad but true in many relationships. For those who don't play the game they have three options in order to win at love. Persist and be so nice that your love can't be denied, be someone that you are not in order to win at love, or simply play the waiting game and hope you find the right one with patience.

Relationships often boils down to matter of choosing between immediate gratification or being patient and allowing one entry into our lives that are worthy. At the end of the day nice guys do finish last within a particular relationship when they try to secure love but are denied. It's true he or she who cares the most will generally lose at love and more times than not it's the man left holding the bag. But in the final analysis nice guys will prevail by finding a woman who is astute enough to not take a man's kindness and depict it as weakness.

So it's true, nice guys often finish last in the short term. In the long run they'll finish first.

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