by Danelle Karth

Created on: April 28, 2009

We all argue at some time or another. Arguments can raise the blood pressure, increase the stress we feel, and cause a lot of emotions. Calming down is important and the first step to working through the argument. Knowing how to calm down can be a little difficult, but it doesn't have to be.

Adult Time Out.

We often give our children time outs when they argue. This is because it gives them time to think and time to calm down. Adult time outs can have the same positive effects and with a few steps it can even be better then that. The first step is to step back from the situation and give yourself a few minutes to breathe, calm down, and let your emotions settle. During your few minute break you can count to ten, take deep breaths, or even do simple meditation (work to clear your mind of all thoughts and emotions). These things can help you get yourself in perspective and help you remember what really is important (which probably isn't winning the argument).

Work It Off.

Going for a walk or working out can help you relax and get rid of all of your emotional stress. Even if it is just around the block or a few jumping jacks out back. You don't have to do it for long to feel some of the stress leave your muscles and your mind begin to clear.

Shower.

Whether you actually took advantage of a little workout or not, a hot shower (or a cold one) can make all the difference in the world. A good reason for this is because you give yourself a few minutes to really think and to step back from your emotions. All while enjoying the flow of the water.

The big thing is that you will want to take a break from the argument. Step back. Whether you are doing a time out, whether you are working out, whether you are showering, or whether you are doing something else it is important that you take a minute to think about what has happened. Don't just concentrate on your emotions, but really concentrate on what is important. Think about your relationship with the person you have been arguing with. It is most likely that your relationship is much more important then whatever it is you are arguing about. When you have calmed down and let your emotions go it is time to go and calmly talk to the person you were fighting with. This is especially important if it is was a spouse or significant other. Let them know how you feel, listen to how they feel, and remember what is important.

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