by Mark Downie

Created on: April 28, 2009

Sometimes in life we believe that we are alone simply because that is what our state of being is proving to us at the time. By believing and therefore accepting' that we are alone, whether that be due to failures in love, employment or just due to life in general, our course of action is to unconsciously alienate' ourselves from the outside world because we feel inadequate. Everywhere we look, we see people who seem to have it all and who have absolutely no worries about anything and this adds to our frustration and our disappointment but remarkably, that's only what our state of being makes us believe - that's NOT what's really going on.

Everyone around us are fighting there own battles within themselves all the time, it just looks to us as individuals as though they aren't because our state of being is pulling us further downwards and making us feel less and less worthy and alone. We will begin to think of how worthless we are as a person and silly things such as how we have let everyone close to us down with our failures' but in point of fact, NOTHING has changed to make this a fact or a reality but our state of being. The same things and the same people are still going on around us, all that has changed is our perception of them - NOT theirs of you.

When someone makes you laugh, you allow that laughter to wash over you and just like that - it's gone. So should the same be done with sadness, it should also be allowed to wash over you as well. This is easy to say, I know, but by allowing your state of being to deepen and to get worse, you really are' letting someone down - YOURSELF. If however this happens and you feel so low that you just can't seem to be able to help it, you will begin to notice in your eye's' just how much others aren't helping you and even the slightest piece of advice or interest in the sake of your well-being such as is everything ok? Are you ok?' will be so profound to you that it will and can quite often make you cry. The very thought of someone acknowledging your anguish will be so overwhelming to you that you won't be able to find the words to explain how you are feeling because you just won't know how to but consequently, no-one can ever really help you if they don't know there is a problem to begin with. So learn to reach out.

However, this can sometimes backfire:

Feeling like this may result in you pouring out your heart to anyone and everyone in desperation as a means to unload' your problems but be careful who you speak to in this

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