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First of all if you are trying to hold onto your man then what you are doing is really wrapping and hooking him. Another way of asking the question would be "How can I have a long term relationship with my male partner while still maintaining my other friendships?

In addressing this issue it is important to look at our reference point for how we live our lives. What is the vision for your life? The only person we really need to hold onto is our Self. The Self I am refering to here is the Higher Self. If you are connected to your Higher Self you don't have to hold onto a man in order to maintain a relationship with him. In fact if you are trying to hold onto a man then what you will do is push him away.

There are many hidden energy dynamics in relationship that tend to go unnoticed by most people. Engaging in a physical interaction with someone is only a part of the picture in relationship.

If you have to be out of integrity in order to maintain a relationship with a man then perhaps you have the wrong man. A lot of our programming has been about doing all the right things in order to get a man and keep a man. When we come from this place we are actually manipulating to get someone instead of just being our self.

The greatest thing we can do is be a friend to ourself first. When we have this relationship with our Higher Self then we can have a relationship with a man that evolves naturally. In truth the only relationship we are really having is with our Self. Any external person is only going to show us the reflection of what is happening on more subtle levels of who we are.

If you make your life all about keeping and holding onto a man or friends then your life is all about "them" instead of the relationship with Self and them. The human part of us requires the physical interaction with others yet we are also more than our human Self. If we are only operating from our human personality that tries to hold onto everything, we are trying to control everything by keeping it the way we think it should be. When we are living from this paradigm our safety, security and trust is coming from external circumstance. Anything that changes we become devistated because it doesn't fit with the box of limitation constructed by our personality.

If you want to maintain a relationship with a man while still having relationships with your friends then cultivating the feminine principle of life is important. This means being able to receive from your Higher Self. A man or woman that

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