by Dezarae Starnes

Created on: April 26, 2009

I do not believe that a relationship with a cheater can work out for most people. Some people can stay with a cheater, but many cannot handle the betrayal. That old saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater!" rings true for many reasons. I want to just discuss three of them with you. A relationship cannot succeed without trust, a lover cannot forget being betrayed even if they've forgiven it, and finally, scientifically, I believe that males are more prone to have many sexual partners at a time.

First, a relationship that is lacking in trust is one that is set up to fail. At the beginning of a relationship, trust is usually a given. You start out with 100% and work your way down from there. This is of course barring any excruciating circumstances in the past of your partner. With some women who have been abused and mistreated in the past, you may start at 0 and work your way up, but generally, most people will admit that they give you a clean slate in the beginning and then it's up to you not to fall from their graces. Now in black and white, you can't trust someone who's dishonest, and cheating is being dishonest, so you've lost their trust. Laying it out plain and simple, if you don't think the person you're with is trustworthy, honest, and respectful to you, then love leaves very quickly, because without trust, honesty, and respect, you're left with a nasty person, and no one purposely seeks out a bad person to be their partner. When it comes to cheating, I don't believe in second chances. That person has burned that bridge and needs to move on. Yes, I'm hard about cheating, but it's just because I see it as the ultimate betrayal, which leads us to the second point.

Betrayal hits a person hard. Generally, your lover is the person that you believe will never hurt you or cause you such intense pain, but cheaters are often the ones in your life who will betray you most. This is an emotion that many people can not get over. Women who give the cheater another chance are basically saying, "I forgive you, but I won't forget this." All this means is that she's going to make your life hell for the next 20 years, and she's going to win every argument you throw at her whether she's right or not, because she has the betrayal card to play. That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship to me. Who wants a second chance if there are so many strings attached to it? And trust me, there are always strings attached to a cheaters second chance. It's also important to take a

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