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If you're not interested in listening to the other person's opinion, being only concerned with your own, you should avoid the hassle of being loved because if feared; you can bypass having to pay attention to theirs. (What you may not comprehend though, is that the other person usually has no interest in sharing them with you anyway.)

If you're more concerned with the task at-hand than you are about the other person's feelings then it is better to be feared, rather than loved. If you won't accept any excuses or explanations, the task you've assigned has a better chance of being completed. If loved, there's a slight chance it might not be.

If you're seeking domination then it is better the other person fear you rather than love you. You'll definitely gain more control over someone if you frighten him or her. Whereas if they love you, the power maintained with fear diminishes as, their opinions and feelings are factored into the mix, controlled by them.

If you're looking to emerge a winner, you may find that someone who fears you just might not want to enter into battle with you, so this time, you should go with love because he or she is not interested in fighting. They're more interested in peacekeeping and negotiations than they are in engaging in war and your efforts for battle will be for naught.

If you want people to leave you alone, try fear. Scared people don't come close to you and you won't have to be bothered with their incessant clinginess. You won't find yourself under any needless pressure to embrace or to cuddle. No, you'll have no issues with bonding. Fear will have people keeping their distance; don't worry about that.

If you're in search of deception (if dishonesty is what you seek) then have someone fear you. Yes, I know that those loved have lies told to them also but the reasons behind their lies differ. One set of lies intentionally tries to cause pain and the other set tries to spare it. If you're not interested in whatever the reasons may be for lying, definitely go with fear.

So which is better depends on your objective. I know which is easier... Having someone love you carries a lot more responsibility with it than having that same person fear you because that person's feelings come into play (feelings you otherwise wouldn't have to deal with, had they feared you). Just please remember before making any decisions; as easy as being feared is on you, it's ten times harder on the other person.

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