Knowing what you want comes with knowing who you are. Do you know who you are? Do you equate who you are with your physical body sensations, actions and roles that you play in life?
Many people say things like I am a mother, a lawyer or I am sick, I am depressed, etc. These are all outer actions and states of being. They are not who you are. Who you are, is an Infinite, immortal being of love that has chosen to cloth a part of itself in a physical body to fulfill a purpose. That is the higher truth of who you are.
In order to know as well as manifest what you want in terms of sex, love, and relationships it is important to not only know who you are but also be engaged in a relationship with who you are. From this place y ou will gain the vision for why you are here and the tools to manifest that vision. Then go for it!
The first step is to engage in some form of meditation to bring you "in" to connect with the infinite love consciousness that is the very essence of who you are. You will be able to connect with, in your outer reality with that which is in alignment with that. You will "know" from your feelings when you are around any person or situation that is in alignment with your vision.
Doing the inner work to connect with the big picture for your life is important because your ego personality can really limit you. When you connect with the big picture from you infinite loving self you will be in service in some way that will positively impact others. Each interaction you have will be based on manifesting that dream into this physical reality because your Higher Self will guide you to what action to take.
The doing here must be both on the inner as well as outer levels of being. Many people think that just taking the outer action will be enough. This fails to be true. Our world teaches this because for the most part it has been the male consciousness that has been running the show here. We have wide spread chaos happening with a lot of systems breaking down because this has been so.
What is happening is the feminine principle of life and the Goddess is becoming more empowered in order to bring balance and harmony to the planet. We are transitioning to a whole different way of being and interacting with each other in relationships.
In fact the bigger the vision you have for being here on the planet at this time the more stuff you will have to handle because you will be up against the old ways of thinking and being.
We are awakening in consciousness which means what we may have wanted in the past doesn't necessarily fit with our current awareness. This is why there are so many people leaving through death and why so many relationships are splitting up. That's why the relationship with the evolving connection with the Higher Self must come first and foremost in all endeavours.
This means becoming both a vertical and horizontal thinker. A vertical thinker sees the higher levels of sex, love and relationship and integrates those with their physical being.
A horizontal thinker sees more from the outer reality and how to expand growth in more of a 3D way. This usually involves new inventions, making more money, having the house, the children, a partner with the appropriate image, action, job and so on.
In order to evolve in these changing times it is important to have our choices come from wholeness which means marrying both the vertical and horizontal ways of thinking within us.
So what might this look like? Well this is another way of saying that we have the male and female principles working together within us. The feminine has the hidden blueprint and the masculine has the outer structure and form. When we have this sacred marriage within us we have a world of people embodying Universal consciousness with Infinite love as our foundation.
This facilitates being able to "see" from all of who we are. When this happens we have parents communicating with their children yet to be born and determining when they give birth to them. They receive their children's names from their children to be that know their purpose. We have people consciously communicating telepathically, working with nature spirits to develop communities aligned with nature. Currently this is mostly unconscious and hidden with a lot of information coming through in the dream-time or through what seems to be fantasy or what some say is "just the imagination".
We have people teleporting to other places on the planet as well as traversing a multitude of dimensions. In fact, we are communicating more consciously with each other as humans as well as extraterrestrial intelligence and inter-dimensional beings.
We are more youthful in our physical being as we are able to transform diseases without having to cut out parts of our bodies. We are even transcending the death process as we raise our physical bodies to new heights of wakefullness aligned with a divine blueprint.
So I ask you, where does your "knowing" what you want come from? Is it from your logical mind? Does what I have written seem a little "out there" to you? These things are already happening. Choices are being made daily. The earth is going through changes and the humans must also change along with the earth.
The stairs of evolution are meant to be climbed. Do you want something that you don't yet see around you? Does that vision come from the deepest part of your being? If the answer is yes then have faith, take the next step even though you may not see the rest of the staircase.
Life then, overall, has more vibrancy and texture because we are multi dimensional beings evolving sex, love and relationship as part of a Divine Plan.